they say that it's always the little things in life that get to us most. a cumulative effect... like ten fingernails on a chalkboard instead of just the one...
i've never quite understood why, and tonight i understand it even less, but it seems to me that if someone could develop an immunity to "the little things" - they'd be quite powerful.
it strikes me that every life changing experience also starts out with some small, miniscule act. and you would never have dreamed it possible at that fateful moment.. but a year later - looking back, you can see your errors for what they were.
and then, you're surrounded by your mistake. you have constant reminders... maybe other people don't realize that you see it as a disaster - and they remind you of it, inadvertently. it's never in a big way - maybe it's even in passing. the gods are cruel, afterall.
so here there's a word in the newspaper that triggers a memory, so you go for a walk to clear your head... and then a smell reaches your olfactory receptors (just for you, ST), and, disgusted, you decide to listen to some music... maybe if you activate another sense it might destroy the others - but no.. even there, more reminders...
friends, i believe i've just figured out why people go mad.
they say that closure is important in allowing people to move on and deal with their past. but i ask you: how is this possible? how is it possible to erase memories and emotions and thoughts?
of course, you will say, no, no, it's about dealing with it.
yes, fine deal with it... but how?
how do you deal with the little things? i mean, i can see how you can block this or that out.. or move on from some causative event... but the effect of a single "little thing" is never great - it is the cumulative effect of many of these "little things" that has the power to twist the minds of human beings. (yes, jonathon, i did not say "twist the minds of men".. note also, i did not give in to the radical feminist stereotype that i am by saying women instead of men or human beings - do i get kudose points for that?!?)
so do you see a resolution in sight?
i sure don't.
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We can use my records. I have records in atleast 5 languages, many of them intolerable folk music from 6 decades ago.
Actually, I thought the human beings was very well used. kudose most heartily approved.
People who think you can just deal with it and move on are full of crap. That's my positive input of the day. Sorry, but you may never move on. You think you've forgotten it and BAM, suddenly it's back. Maybe a face in a crowd, a song down memory lane, a smell that spirits you back or that ever annoying flickering of a scene that plays over and over again behind you're eyelids when you try to sleep. It'll never really go away, but the forgetfulness in between will get longer and longer. So you just have to buckle up and remember that for everything happens for a reason and that there's always something important to take away. Sometimes we forget the harder lessons in life, the ones that hurt, and then our memories shoot up like weeds again, choking out the joy in life. You have to come to accept that weeds flower too, and that without pains, we could not appreciate our joys.
Well, before I go all philosophical, (too late, I know) I'll stop and leave some oxygen for the rest of you.
much like:
"in three words i can sum up everything i've learnt about life: it goes on"
robert frost
eh, jonathon? thanks.
you and robert frost should just get married lol (i have no idea if hes even alive or not :P) ps its kudos points ahha not kudose, ms im a stickler for spelling...and i want more on the lyrics...seriously now :P
i realize it's kudos without an E... cut me some slack.. it was like 1am...
I agree with you. Most of the time when people have a bad day then end up sobbing "Its just been a build up of a bunch of little things that put me over the edge". It happens and its unavoidable.
But what if you look at it in a different way? The buildup of little things can always make a day fantastic too. Getting a free coffee on rollup the rim, finding a penny, hearing your favorite song on the radio... these are all little things too that are small, but several of them, or even just one can be so powerful.
Either you cry over spilt milk, or you clean it up and go get a free coffee with your roll up the rim cup from last time. Bounce back. You can let the buildup of not-so-good little things get you down, or choose to let the more positive little things cancel out the ugly ones and make your day.
As always, its just about perspective, and the beauty of it is that you have the power of choice.
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